VIEWS/OPINIONS STATED HERE ARE INTENDED TO ASSIST
PEOPLE TO USE IN THEIR STRUGGLE WITH EVERYDAY
LIFE SITUATIONS. WE KINDLY ASK OUR READERS NOT TO
TAKE COMMENTS PERSONALLY.
WAYS TO LIGHTEN UP
- watch an episode of Mr. Bean
- decorate your bedroom with toilet paper
- wear your clothes backwards & inside out
- daydream
- stand in the big field and yell
- do something nice for someone
- invent a new laugh
- play with your food
- name your clothes
- talk to your cat, dog or plant
- meditate
- take 15 -30 minutes naps not at your office while
working
- cry, relieves burden you are carrying & will heal you
- relax in a warm bathtub
- practice & learn to forgive before sundown to person
who may have done you wrong
Do not make your life more miserable or make it your problem
when your family member gets into trouble with somebody else.
Do not retaliate or get involved in the conflict. Remain neutral
and be fair to both sides to resolve the problem
FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness is not easy to do but it does help a lot with
everyday problems when you are able to forgive.
Purpose of forgiving is to release your mind from the
pain of held resentments, to set yourself free, to let go
of the past & put it behind you & go on with your life.
If you are to heal fully. You will need to forgive fully.
Just found out and realize the other day that I am hurting
myself and making my life more miserable not forgiving
people who have done me wrong and not asking forgiveness
from those people I have done wrong to and always getting
upset at the people who said negative or bad things to me
or about me. It is not that easy to forgive, I guess it all depends
on what it is such as sexual abuse, incest, murder, residential
school abuse to name a few are the hardest to forgive & forget.
Not forgiving only leads my life to destruction, misery, to jail,
more isolation/separation/breakup of my family because of
drinking & use of drugs etc.
RESPECT: What is respect?
Respect is showing courtesy, consideration, politeness
& honor towards another person.
Respect is treating others with consideration by
avoiding interference, harming, degrading, insulting,
injuring or interrupting.
Everybody wants or deserves respect no matter how
old you are or what has been happening with your
life.
Think twice before you say something bad about
another person even if that person does not hear you.
Respect cannot be given on a silver platter. You have
to earn it yourself by showing respect to others and
by being kind, polite, helpful & considerate in manner.
The community & world would have less problems if
we all can practice respecting each other.
THE THREE R'S
Respect for Self
Respect for Others
Responsibility for all your Actions
The
Three Windows
1. How you see yourself.
2. How other people see you.
3. How God sees you.
No. 1: We all think we are always right
what we say and do. Blame somebody
else for problems we encounter. We do
not see or refuse to see and accept
negative qualities of our personalities.
No. 2: Other people tend to see who
we really are, the positive & negative
qualities of our personalities. Usually
they tend to see negative qualities more
than positive qualities. But don't let that
bring you down. We all have done good
things for people, a kind smile, a hand
shake, a hug, gave money, bought a
cup of coffee etc. goes a long way and
means a lot to people.
No.3: You will never be able to hide any-
thing from God. He knows everything
about you.
S E L F E S T E E M
Help your child to have a healthy self esteem
- unconditional love, attention and praise
- respect and acceptance
- encouragement and support
- security and safety
- healthy living environment
- being a good role model of positive self esteem
